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I am going through a divorce. We have a 4-year old and I am very concerned. My husband says he has given up on us, but I have not. Is there still hope?

Answered by: Ms. Betsy Sansby

How does divorce impact children?

Answered by: Dr. Rozario Slack

My ex is awful. What do I do?

Answered by: Ilene Dillon

I love my job; it's challenging and rewarding. I've never felt stressed or overwhelmed by it until now. I'm going through a divorce and although it's not bitter I'm struggling. I know I'm not accomplishing as much and I'm stressed that my performance is suffering. I wish I could put 25% of my job on hold until I get back on my feet but the demands keep coming. Should tell my boss what's going on? I'm nervous about saying anything and nervous not to say anything? Some days I just want to cry.

Answered by: Ashley Seeger

My husband and I have been married about a year. I came to the marriage with three kids; he has one. At family holidays and events, his mother and sister invite him, his ex-wife and son but do not invite me and my kids. My husband goes because he wants his son to have a relationship with his family and their attitude is she's the mother of their grandchild/nephew and I'm not. I thought this situation would get better over time but so far I just feel rejected and frustrated. What should I do?

Answered by: Ilene Dillon

After 10 years of marriage I am going through a divorce. After lots of counseling I know I am doing the right thing because the marriage was not a healthy one. I still feel very sad and sometimes find myself wishing I could put my head on my husband's shoulder to help me through the divorce - even though I no longer want to be married. Is this normal?

Answered by: Ilene Dillon

My wife just found out that I have been viewing pornography for the past six years of our marriage. She is furious. I feel bad, but I don't understand why she is so upset. She hasn't been sexually open to new things and I have felt that she didn't care if I took care of things myself. I don't know how to respond to her. I actually enjoy viewing pornography, but I don't want to ruin my relationship with my wife. She told me that my viewing pornography is like cheating on her. I don't get that at all. How could viewing pornography be like cheating? Is there something that I can do to help her calm down? The other question I have is about stopping pornography. I only view once or twice a week when she isn't around. I am not sure I want to stop, but I don't want a divorce either. Please advise.

Answered by: Geoff Steurer

My son and daughter-in-law are going through a divorce. So far it is mostly amiable and cooperative but I know it can turn sour. I have always had a good relationship with my daughter-in-law and want to be a support to both of them since they have a 2-year-old son. How do I make sure my son doesn't feel like I am being disloyal, am not taking his side, or am pressuring him to get back with his wife because I am interacting with her?

Answered by: Jeffrey Ford

Not long ago my wife and I decided to get a divorce, I thought that it would make things easier for me at home and at work. But ever since, I have been struggling with anxiety and exhaustion. I cannot find the time to myself that I want, and I feel like my performance at work has been suffering. I am afraid they are going to fire me, and in these trying economic times, it could be months before I see another dime. What's wrong with me, and how can I get back on the right track?

Answered by: Victoria Bonelli

My wife and I are not getting along and our therapist suggested we separate to create a 'cooling down period.' I agree with the idea, things are not working the way they're going, but I am a little afraid to leave. I worry about the message it will send to our four kids. I don't want them to think we are getting a divorce, because that's not my intent. And I don't want them to feel like I am abandoning them. My other fear is my wife's goal is divorce and she is using this idea from the therapist as way to get me out of the house. What should I do?

Answered by: Donald Hope