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My grandmother has been depressed for years now. Ever since her husband passed away. She thinks she can cure herself with herbs and natural remedies but it's just not working. How can I help her out of the depression when she is so stubborn?

Answered by: Leslie Rouder

Is it possible to make amends to someone who is dead?

Answered by: Diane Brandon

Yesterday I spoke with a dear friend who recently lost his 16 year old child. His child died of a heart problem, while the heart problem was known, the death was completely unexpected. I spent an hour on the phone with him and we cried together and talked about what was going on in his and my life. I feel a great desire to help my friend, but I am at a loss in how to help him and his wife. What can I do to help?

Answered by: Paula Shaw

My family is close. Last weekend my cousin fell asleep at the wheel while driving home from work and hit a diesel. He was badly injured and the doctors could only save one of his legs. He is in his early 40's, has a wife, and kids. We know how to serve them by tending kids, bringing in meals, and adding to them to our prayers. What we're not sure of is how to support them emotionally or psychologically now and in the rehabilitating months to come. How can we support them through this life-changing event?

Answered by: Dr. Kevin Skinner

I love my job; it's challenging and rewarding. I've never felt stressed or overwhelmed by it until now. I'm going through a divorce and although it's not bitter I'm struggling. I know I'm not accomplishing as much and I'm stressed that my performance is suffering. I wish I could put 25% of my job on hold until I get back on my feet but the demands keep coming. Should tell my boss what's going on? I'm nervous about saying anything and nervous not to say anything? Some days I just want to cry.

Answered by: Ashley Seeger

My Mom is in her 70s. She is not suffering any mental effects from aging but has significant physical effects developing. Her reflexes are slower, she drops things, is less steady on her feet, and having more difficulty controlling her diabetes. Whenever my siblings and I try and talk to her about preparing for the future, whether it's having us drive her at night, lift heavy groceries, any kind of assistance, she simply refuses to engage in the conversation; she'll just walk away. Despite fender benders, a broken ankle, she simply won't come to the table to talk about the future. It's very frustrating. We aren't sure what to do.

Answered by: Patricia Fidurski

My dad is in his late 70s. After a recent heart stent, he became depressed and says he feels like he is drowning. He says he has never relied on anyone for anything and cannot cope with being "needy." He is not an invalid by any means, just shakier and less steady on his feet. He is a retired professional. In addition to spending time with him myself, what can I do to help him feel valuable and independent over the remainder of his life?

Answered by: Ilene Dillon

A few nights ago I was at a party and drank more than I should have. I woke up next to a guy I hardly know. I was embarrassed and tried to quickly get out of there. Since then, I havent been able to get my mind off what I did. I am sure we had sex, but I don't remember much about it. How did I let myself get so drunk that I don't remember what I did? I feel awful and find myself crying all of the time. What's more is that my schooling is now suffering. I sit in class and find myself thinking about what I did. How do I stop crying? I wish the whole thing would just go away.

Answered by: Dr. Kevin Skinner

Last year I lost my father after he suffered a stroke. I took it hard, but I seem to be getting worse rather than better. I am totally wiped of energy. I sleep all day. I don't see my friends or family. I cry for no apparent reason. I cannot climb out of this black hole, and all I want is to have my life back. What is wrong with me?

Answered by: Ilene Dillon

How do you get over the death of a best friend/support/lover?

Answered by: Brett Williams